Attracting Your Soul Mate through Feng Shui


Creating a Loving Environment Through Feng Shui

Feng Shui is Yoga for the home.

Remove clutter. Eliminate the old to bring in the new.
When you get rid of clutter, you are making room for romance. If you are single, create an empty space in your closet for a future lover’s things. Make room in your drawers and closets so there is equal space for both you and your partner’s possessions. Remove items from past relationships.
Space Clear (please see notes on page 8)
Past relationship photos and mementos. Eliminate the old to bring in the new.
If you have pictures of old boyfriends/girlfriends hanging around, then they’re still there! Get rid of the pictures and mementos.
If you have been previously married, make sure all items like old wedding rings and clothing from the wedding are not still in your possession.
Make sure that you have new sheets, too, to sleep on. Old energy can linger in the bed as well.
Keep the TV out of the bedroom. Any electronic equipment should be placed in the office or other area of the home. A TV in the bedroom is not conducive to romance. The bedroom is for lovin’ not working. Purge the room of all work-related materials that distract you.

No exercise equipment in the bedroom–makes your relationship exhausting.
It is not advised to work out in the bedroom because this represents hard work that is often a hindrance of romantic space.

Do not keep your altar in your bedroom; it is said to be disrespectful and prevent relationship and intimacy.

Mirrors in the bedroom. If they are facing the bed, relocate them because it reflects the couple on the bed. Some believe that this will cause a failure in the relationship because of the entry of a third party. Believe it or not, a television in the bedroom is just as negative as mirrors–do get rid of it.
Have things in pairs. Replace mismatched night tables with a set to encourage equality in your relationship. Mismatched night tables create an imbalance in the relationship.
Have a pair of lights show you want to share your life and home with your loved one.
Do not have just a single chair in the bedroom; have a pair of chairs or a love seat in the bedroom.
No sharp corners in the bedroom from furniture or statues.
Add a book on love and Romance to your night stand.

Check the statues and art in your bedroom. Replace any photos, sculptures or art of single people or figures. Replace them with happy couples. This simple change will help draw a wonderful partner! Discard or put away photos and mementos of old flames. Gifts and anything with the former partner’s energy on it keeps new love at bay.

If there are any abstract, dark or sad pieces of artwork in the bedroom, remove them. These things encourage negativity when, alternatively, the bedroom should be peaceful and safe for those who sleep there. You can replace it with a painting of peonies flowers, love birds or silk flowers as these represents love.

Personal photos. Do not display family and children’s’ photos in the bedroom. This is said to hinder your sex life. Put such photos in the living or family room where they belong!

Adjust light levels in your bedroom with the help of a dimmer. This is very important, as light is one of the most powerful manifestations of energy. Toxin free candles are recommended as the best option for bedroom lighting.
Set the mood. The mood in the bedroom is important, too, e.g., light scented candles, drape your lamps in sheer fabrics or lace. Keep lighting soft. Play romantic music. Place “happy” photos of you and your honey on the dresser.
The bedroom should be well ventilated so old energy moves out of the room.

Keep all doors closed during night. It might be your bedroom door, the door of your closet, your bathroom door, etc. This will ensure the optimum flow of nourishing and healing energy and will improve your health and strengthen your relationship.

Should the bedroom door squeak, fix it because it blocks romantic energy from entering the bedroom.
Make sure door knobs are not loose; this can cause you not to have a firm grip on life.
Make sure the faucets are not dripping; leaky faucets indicate a loss of energy; blocked toilets can represent blocked emotions.
The size of your bed matters!
If you are single, a single mattress is not a good idea. In addition, snoozing on either a king size or single mattress doesn’t encourage romance. Sleeping on a huge mattress does not encourage intimacy. Invest in a full size or a queen.
Store nothing under the bed, and keep it clean. Whether you have dust bunnies or Christmas ornaments stored under the bed, Feng Shui believes that objects below the bed can cause restless sleep. Storing items under your bed affects your sleep. If space/storage is at a premium, linens are the only items acceptable for storage under the bed.

Store your laundry elsewhere. Whether the laundry is dirty or simply not folded and put away, it should not be lying around the bedroom. This kind of mundane imagery is not conducive to rest or romance.
Bed placement. Having the side of your bed up against a wall pushes away your chance for love. Have your bed positioned so there is enough space to walk on either side. Bed is not to be in line with the door; instead, you should be able to see the door as you lay in the bed. Do not have your headboard up against the toilet wall or under a window.
Satin sheets. Think of sensual, soft, bedding when selecting pillows, sheets and comforters. Any type of bedding that creates a cozy environment is great for the bedroom.

Solid Wooden headboard is best for goods nights sleep. Metal headboards are not recommended.

Decorate it in a gender-neutral manner (no fussy flowers and pastels or severely macho/masculine rooms). Make sure the bedroom is not too Yin (feminine) or Yang (masculine). This will either deter the man or woman; he/she will not feel comfortable.
Decorate your room in the right color. Shades of pink or earth tones helps draw love to you easily and create a romantic mood. Red, used sparingly, can be a sexy, bold color that creates passion or help draw a new lover.

Rose quartz or green quartz. Buy chunks of rose quartz, rose quartz hearts, and also rose quartz lamps and place them in your bedroom. Rose quartz is known to draw love into your life, increase self love and help heal a broken heart. Always have the rose quartz’s in pairs

Rose Quartz. Rose Quartz is the most desirable of all quartz and is associated with love, romance and relationships. Widely known as the ‘Love Stone’, Rose Quartz is most favored for its ability in speeding up the process for those seeking true love, mending broken relationships and jazzing up your existing romance life. Rose quartz is also reputed to help with the comprehension of love, restores the love of self as well as love for others, and heals old emotional wounds while developing self-appreciation and love. Wear rose quartz earrings, necklaces or carry a couple of stones in your pockets, purse or have in your car.

Add a statue or picture Ganesh outside the bedroom door to remove any obstacles to partnership/romance.

Add a picture or statue of Kwan Yin, the Goddess or love and compassion, as you enter the bedroom. Do not have her facing the bed, however.

Use a magic box. This is said to draw a spouse to you. Write your deepest desires for a loved one on a piece of paper. Place this box in the SW corner of the house, in a cupboard or out of sight.

Treat yourselves to fresh flowers and once they wilt, replace them.
Remove dried flowers or cactus from the house. They are especially detrimental by the front door and bedroom.

Move out the stuffed animals, dolls, and excessive pillows from the bed to make room for your lover.

Remove anything fragile. If anything in your room triggers anxiety when someone clumsy visits, change your bedroom decor. There should be nothing in your bedroom that contribute
es to stress–even for a fleeting moment–and that makes you reluctant to welcome guests into every room in your home.
Rainbows for love. Hang a crystal in the South West windows. Then, let the suns rays shine on the crystal to create rainbows in the South West sector of your house for extra romantic energy in your space.
The South West area of your home and any room is associated with love; make sure the area is clean/clutter free and spruce that area up with something that represents love.
To activate the South West areas of your space, try these suggestions:
• Place a beautiful stone (such as rose quartz) or a beautiful vase in the SW corner of your desk.
• Add red items or red crystal paperweight is also a perfect addition.
Home/Living Room: Make sure the South West sectors of your home and living room have love objects appropriate to the South West corner.
Garden: Place a statue of a couple in the South West location, or plant some red or pink flowers here.
If the South West corner has a toilet, make sure this room has a mirror in it. Keep the door closed.
Write a letter to your soul mate, making sure it is all written in the positive and in present tense (see page 1).

Dress with Intention for love
Fire up your wardrobe to fire up your love life.
In Feng Shui, the life forming element of Fire represents intimacy and passion. Fire energy manifests on the physical plane as the colors red and purple, light or life-based substances, such as shiny or animal-skin fabrics, and the triangle shape, v-necklines, peaked lapels and diamond patterns. Ignite your personal style (and someone’s passion) by incorporating a Fire design element into your ensemble every day.

Wear the love colors of pink, red or green for the heart chakra

Bring items into your space, for example:
Mandarin Ducks. A pair of Mandarin Ducks symbolize happiness in love and suggestive of romance, devotion, affection, conjugal fidelity, togetherness and enduring love. For singles, the pair of Mandarin Ducks will enhance your chances of finding love partners; for lovers, it will bring you marriage opportunities; and for married couples, a pair of Mandarin Ducks will hold out the promise of a marriage being gloriously happy with no separation between the spouses.

Peony Flower. The Queen of all flowers and the national flower of China, the peony or ‘Mou Tan’ is also known as the ‘Flower of Riches and Honor’ in Chinese. The peony is the emblem of love and affection, feminine beauty and the amorous feelings of youth. Peonies are often referred to in romantic Chinese poetry and literature. In Feng Shui, the Peony is used to attract romance luck.

Bring pictures or energy of animals that mate for life, for example:
Wolves, Swans, coyotes, barn owls, beavers, bald eagles, golden eagles, condors, cranes, French angel fish, sandhill cranes, pigeons, prions (a seabird), red-tailed hawks, anglerfish, ospreys

Essential Oils for Love

Rose oil ~ Used to open the heart and gets the emotions flowing, which puts you in the mood for romance. Rose is the main scent representing and encouraging love.

Other good essential oils to use:

• Jasmine oil ~ stimulates the sexual appetite.
• Sandalwood oil ~ relaxes the nervous system while awakening desire.
• Ylang Ylang ~ has very strong aphrodisiac properties.


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